Ever since I’ve stopped working at my day job, everyday conversations with friends have gotten difficult. You don’t notice the number of times that people nonchalantly as how your job is going – until you are jobless. It’s as if they are saying, “How are you doing?”, without expecting to get a long, detailed answer. However, the last few times I have been asked that, they have been quite surprised.
I really don’t know how to answer the questions of “How’s Work?” or “What do you do?” I try to say, “I was asked to resign, but I was looking to quit anyway”, but people assume that to be a negative life circumstance. I start to hear things like, “I’m sorry” and “Wow I didn’t know…” You’d think that someone close to me just died.
The next question is the all-too-obvious, “How’s the job search going?” How do I tell them that I’m not looking for another job? I tried that with one friend and he seemed ready to check me into an psychiatric hospital. I can’t tell them about my alternative income or my blogs and remain anonymous. I realize I must sound like I spend my days wallowing in a Cheeto powder mess watching TV.
I haven’t told my mom about my job situation since she’d have the same reaction as my friends. She’d probably offer to try to help out risking her own retirement income. Is there anyway to break people’s preconceived notions that you must have a job?