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By: Why The Rich Get Richer: An Entirely Different Perspective » Money and Personal Finance Blog In Silicon Valley

Tue, 02 Oct 2007 15:26:03 +0000

[...] out there has come clean about being envious about a former college roommate’s current success. Lazy Man has confessed about some deep thoughts and honest feelings he’s had about an old [...]

By: Casey

Casey — Tue, 25 Sep 2007 23:04:32 +0000

You could take it as a compliment. Like minds attract attract like-minds.

By: The Seven Deadly Sins of Personal Finance | Moolanomy

The Seven Deadly Sins of Personal Finance | Moolanomy — Tue, 25 Sep 2007 13:02:06 +0000

[...] week, the post “Lazy Man and Jealousy” made me think about the Seven Deadly Sins. I am not a Christian. My first introduction to [...]

By: guinness416

guinness416 — Mon, 24 Sep 2007 16:42:45 +0000

The google ads on this post are really funny: “Make him fall in love” and “Inside a guy’s mind”. Anything you want to tell us lazyman?

By: Supernegro.com

Supernegro.com — Mon, 24 Sep 2007 02:23:41 +0000

Being jealous is indeed normal – but personally, I couldn’t find myself jealous of someone else’s success. It would simply motivate me to see if I could duplicate their winning ways in my own life. And it would have to be so much more than a good job or nice home -it would be something along the lines of “I make a million bucks a year blogging” or something to that effect.

By: Sia

Sia — Mon, 24 Sep 2007 00:34:42 +0000

Being jealous is normal and it keeps us motivated. I agree. Personally, it serves me well when I work out and see my partner whose doing one level higher than I am. You better believe the next day I’ve got mine up to the same as her, and I catch up if it doesn’t kill me first !! Ok, maybe not it’s not always so good…

sia

By: Linking to Supporters For This Amazing Week | Personal Finance Blog by Money Ning

Sun, 23 Sep 2007 23:54:30 +0000

[...] Lazy Man and Money talks about something we are all good at – Being Jealous. [...]

By: The Sunday Review #39

The Sunday Review #39 — Sun, 23 Sep 2007 15:00:35 +0000

[...] Lazy Man and Jealousy by Lazy Man @ Lazy Man and Money. [...]

By: Sunday Money Roundup - Home Alone Edition. | My Two Dollars

Sunday Money Roundup - Home Alone Edition. | My Two Dollars — Sun, 23 Sep 2007 14:00:58 +0000

[...] Man & Money struggles with a jealousy issue about an old college friend’s success. Luckily, he started wondering if the guy worked all day or had a loving wife to come home to. The [...]

By: sfordinarygirl

sfordinarygirl — Sun, 23 Sep 2007 06:15:38 +0000

I felt jealous earlier this summer when one of my close friends got a fabulous job offer at a newspaper. My feelings stem from my own failure to succed in journalism full-time as a reporter. But then I thought about what Trent wrote awhile back on his jealous feelings of the reader who had a trust fund and thought about the sunscreen song. I’m sure everyone’s heard of it but the line says “don’t waste your time on jealously, sometimes you’re ahead sometimes you’re behind. The race is long and, in the end, it’s only with yourself.”

But feeling just a tinge of jealousy briefly is definitely a good motivator – it’s a reminder to keep kicking ass and work smarter.

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brip blap » Blog Archive » linkling end of the earth edition — Sat, 22 Sep 2007 14:19:01 +0000

[...] had a full post reacting to Lazy Man’s post about jealousy. If this hasn’t happened to you, you are either not a jealous person by nature or not [...]

By: Hot Topics: Passive Income, Messy Desks, Trusts, and The Green Eyed Monster | MoneySocket

Sat, 22 Sep 2007 06:23:35 +0000

[...] lazy man over at Lazy man and money gets jealous. I think it’s perfectly healthy to get jealous, but its best to transform that negativity [...]

By: ispf

ispf — Sat, 22 Sep 2007 05:13:05 +0000

I think a little bit of jealousy is a *good* thing :) Use it as fuel to motivate yourself and you’d be surprised how much success it can bring to *you*.

By: devil

devil — Sat, 22 Sep 2007 03:13:14 +0000

I hope that this particular VP likes his job, loves his family and is enjoying a well-balanced life. I’ve heard enough bad news lately – time for some good stuff.

How does someone else’s success threaten you in any way (unless they robbed you)? I don’t mean to sound smart-alecky, I just don’t get it.

By: Ben

Ben — Fri, 21 Sep 2007 21:34:05 +0000

Why don’t you start your own company, you can be the president which is obviously cooler than being a lowly VP!

By: TraderMark

TraderMark — Fri, 21 Sep 2007 18:32:21 +0000

You nailed it. We look at the outside – rich people are just as miserable by %s as normal people. Wealth only buys ‘freedom’ and ‘more choices’ not happiness. Same divorce rates. Same screwed up kids (if not more) etc.

Also we judge by clothes, cars, and titles. Many people in those BMWs and Mercedes and Lexus are leasing cars they could not afford if they actually made payments or a traditional loan. And they are in over their head. That is the crux of much of this mortgage issue – people wanting homes they could not afford – so they could show you what neighborhood they live in, so you can look them up by zip code in LinkedIn and be jealous.

You made a great point – many people at the top of corporations never see their kids soccer game since they work into the evening, miss birthdays due to travel, and eventually divorce their spouse since they are married to the job. Or cheating on it. So look big picture – if you can phase out that tendency to ‘compare’ to others, you’d be happy as would most people. Most people are overspending, and overdoing because they see someone else in the rat race doing so – everyone is a step on the ladder – the rich look up the ultra rich, see bigger yachts, bigger homes, hotter wives, and want to trade up so this ‘performance’ anxiety is in the whole spectrum. It’s pretty sad.

By: Harrison

Harrison — Fri, 21 Sep 2007 16:17:44 +0000

Right on sister! What matters is one’s happiness. So, if you’re happy with your life, then that’s all you need.

[Editor's note: Sister?!?!]

By: Friday Finance Findings For September 21st : Generation X Finance

Friday Finance Findings For September 21st : Generation X Finance — Fri, 21 Sep 2007 15:43:32 +0000

[...] Lazy Man and Jealousy – It happens to everyone, but you know the feeling when you find out a friend or family member has accelerated their career faster than you, or has achieved some significant goal. But, as Lazy points out, there is more to success than money or a career. [...]

By: The Friday Gathering for 9/21/2007 | Gather Little By Little

The Friday Gathering for 9/21/2007 | Gather Little By Little — Fri, 21 Sep 2007 14:55:47 +0000

[...] Man And Money wrote a great article about his struggles with jealousy – First off, I’m a VP and it really means nothing except I get an extra week of vacation. [...]

By: The Simple Dollar » The Simple Dollar Morning Roundup: Bread Making Edition

The Simple Dollar » The Simple Dollar Morning Roundup: Bread Making Edition — Fri, 21 Sep 2007 13:31:30 +0000

[...] Lazy Man And Jealousy The old acquaintance I’m actually jealous of is one who chose to devote his life to service work. He’s spent his life all over the world doing all sorts of interesting things. He’s not financially well off, but his experiences have been amazing. (@ lazy man and jealousy) [...]